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Self-Help 101: Live Better, Feel Better
It is only natural as a human being to strive for self improvement – who among us has not found at least one aspect of our personality or interpersonal skills that we would like to change? Such change can often feel difficult, if not impossible, to achieve without help or guidance. We have outlined some ways to help you and if applied you will see the changes come easily.
While the term “self-help” implies that you can lift yourself up by your bootstraps and better your life, you can never do this alone. Seek out colleagues and mentors who can give you wisdom or advice during crucial times. By building a network of supporters and asking for help, you make yourself better-equipped to help yourself and survive troubled situations.
A great self help tip is to try stopping yourself whenever you’re thinking negative thoughts. We all have the ability to rewire our thinking patterns. By stopping yourself when you think a negative thought, you’ll be more aware of your thoughts and you’ll find yourself feeling much better.
Personal development is a process of setting goals and working hard to achieve them. Some goals are their own rewards. Other goals could use a more tangible reward, though. Rewards for success should be set in advance so they can be used for motivation. Treating yourself to a reward for a goal achieved also reinforces the success of the personal development process and encourages you to stick with it.
Seek transparency when you’re looking for information to guide you on your path to self-development. Any advice you follow should have good intentions with clear origins. This protects you from eloquent, yet nefarious people out to make a dollar on others’ struggles. Protect your heart when you’re looking to tackle very intimate issues.
Make sure you know how to balance the various goals in your life. You should never be too harsh with yourself. You might find your confidence takes a hit from a loud inner critic. At the same time, you should also be flexible. Failing to reach certain goals can be a tough blow to recover from, but learning to forgive yourself makes a big difference in keeping yourself motivated.
A key to personal development is setting priorities and developing a game plan. Setting priorities enables you to focus on what is important and eliminates wasted time on things that are not essential to reaching your goals. Having a game plan will reduce stress and help make big goals more manageable.
Loneliness is a major factor in dictating how happy a person is or could be. Let’s face it, everyone needs someone. We all have family and friends, and as we get older, it is important to have someone to spend the rest of your life with. Most everyone ends up starting a family, and if we leave this step out, it can be a very lonely situation as others are spending time with their families.
No matter what it is you need, and what you are going to do to get it, there is something that every person on this planet must do in their lifetime. Make the choice to be active in life and avoid being a spectator. Being a passive observer to the world around you removes you from the game entirely. Do not let that happen.
Learn to banish harsh and unfounded negative thoughts about other people. If you find a particularly nasty sentiment rising, stop it right there and force yourself to come up with at least two favorable or flattering things about the person or persons in question. Over time, regularly practicing this exercise shapes your emotions by immediately calling to mind the most positive aspects of both people and situations.
One way to control your feelings of anger is to ask yourself whether your anger or reaction will have any impact on the source of your rage. Chances are very good that you will discover that whatever it is that seems so important now, has little or no bearing on what happens in the future.
Find the positives that are wrapped up in the negative. There are sure to be some negative experiences in everyone’s lives, but if you can step back and take a deep look at what you have just gone through and find the positives that came from the experience, then it will not hurt so badly when you have to go through the tough times.
Prioritize your time. If you put off doing something that you really want to do or enjoy doing so that you can take care of something that could have waited, you could find yourself full of regret by the end of the week. This may take some time to really incorporate into your life, but you will be happy that you did.
Identify areas for improvement. When you take the time to analyze areas in your life that are within your control and need improving, you acknowledge that you are not perfect, and you give yourself permission to change. It also helps to write down what you want to change and keep it in a place where you can’t help but often see it.
Before you can begin your journey to bettering yourself, you need to really take a step back to assess whether or not you are willing to change or make the necessary changes to becoming a more developed person. If you are willing to change, the process will be easier and you can be successful with your goals.
Take action today. Many people have goals and dreams, but put them off until “a better time”. Here’s the truth: There is no better time than right now. If you want something, take a little step toward it today. Not only will you feel proud that you have actually accomplished something, you’ll feel so good about it, you’ll want to do more.
Achieving lasting change in those areas that we seek to improve can be difficult, and if you’re looking for guidance, you’ve come to the right place! The most difficult part is deciding to start. So, start now with the suggestions mentioned in this article with your quest for self improvement. We wish you success in your journey!