Have you ever felt this nagging feeling that even though some people might say they’re your friends, they don’t really mean it? Ever get the sense that there are some people in your life who might be harboring some ill will towards you? Or secretly want you out of their group but don’t just come out and say it? Here are a few tell-tale signs that can help you figure out whether or not someone might secretly dislike you.
If you can relate to these signs but you’re not sure why someone dislikes you. Here are a few common behaviors that might cause others to dislike us:
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Tips To Help You Defeat The Stress In Your Life
Wouldn’t life be great if there were no such thing as stress? Well, believe it or not, we do need some stress in our lives. It’s when stress levels rise too high or are present all the time that stress becomes a problem. Integrating some of the following stress management techniques into your daily routine can help you maintain healthy stress levels and a more peaceful life.
Don’t let your emotions get bottled up. Find a way to release them and you won’t feel as stressed. Some people feel better after venting to a friend, others prefer to write to get their feelings out. If you’re sad, cry for a bit. If you’re angry, try hitting a punching bag for a few minutes. If your emotions aren’t being pent up, you won’t be as stressed.
In order to keep your stress level under control, you might want to consider taking up hiking. This is important because nature can be extremely relaxing in itself. This is also important because you are getting exercise at the same time – taking out two birds with one stone!
One way to reduce stress is to perform repairs. Think of how many things need to be repaired and the energy it would take to do them one by one. If you had kept up with these, you could have avoided them all piling up at the same time.
Limit the amount of alcohol that you drink during the course of the night when at the bar or club. When you consume alcohol, your stress levels will go up and you will become flustered quicker. Instead, drink soda or a fruit drink if you want to limit your stress.
Minimizing your exposure to the daily news will actually relieve you of some inadvertent stress. Even if you don’t realize it, watching a war on television, skyrocketing prices at the supermarket or neighborhood crime rates can really wear on your psyche. Every once in a while, especially when your stress levels are high, turn on a comedy or music instead of the news.
When it comes to dealing with stress, one great way to manage it is by learning an instrument. This is important because this is a wonderfully creative way to express your emotions and clear your body of stress. Not only are you helping to relax yourself, but you may also provide good music to other people.
Often times those who find themselves under a lot of stress are simply there because they put too much on their plates. A simple way to solve this is simply cut down on the concurrent activities and responsibilities. In this way you will slowly get back to a clear level headed state.
The idea that laughter is the best medicine is especially true for stressful situations. Most biologists now believe that laughing evolved as a response to a stressful or dangerous situation, so take advantage of your own body’s biology and find a way to make yourself laugh. Even if you are unable to laugh for real, fake laughing can also release tension.
A great way to deal with stress is to consider drinking more hot tea. Along with the relaxing nature of drinking a warm beverage, many teas contain healthy natural relaxing agents in them that can help to soothe you. Check out a variety of teas and see which suit you the best.
If you’re stressed out, make an extra effort to be friendly to everyone you meet. Lashing out and being rude, will only make other people react in kind, which will make everyone more stressed out than they were. If you put in the effort to smile, people will smile back and you might find your stress melting away.
Develop a social network. Your social network can be the most important lifeline you have against stress. Sometimes all that you need to relieve stress is to have someone to talk to. Other times you might need someone to volunteer to take over one of the tasks that is overwhelming you. Well developed social networks provide for such needs.
Develop an exercise regime that will help you minimize stress hormones and neurochemicals. Exercise is an excellent first step in a program designed to relieve stress. Our bodies are programmed by centuries of evolution to flee in the face of stress. We can use this aspect of our evolution to our advantage.
Categorize your stress. Put your stress into two categories – things you have control over and things you have no control over. Try to let go of the things that you can’t control. For the things that you can actively change, make a plan of action and try to stick to it.
Take a time-out and have a mini massage. Try rubbing the palm of your right hand with the thumb of your left. Make slow, circular motions, or use a device. Focus on the rhythmic movement and feel of the massage. Check for tight spots in your neck, and massage out any knots.
You will need to start saying no instead of doing too much.In today’s society, many people are trying to do too many things and dealing with high expectations from themselves and others. When you can’t do something or don’t want to, just refuse politely. “No” doesn’t mean you are cruel, it simply means you won’t subject yourself to stress, solely to please others.
You can use aromatherapy to help you relax. Your olfactory senses can be very powerful. Use scents that are soothing (lavender, chamomile, etc.) so that your olfactory senses can transmit the scents directly to the brain and work to relax your brain waves. Get a few scented candles to create a relaxing atmosphere.
Now you have learned a few new techniques to help you keep your stress levels to a manageable level. While no techniques are guaranteed, none of them do anything at all unless they are put into practice. Give these tips a try, work them in to your daily routine, and see how stress management can improve your life.