8 Signs Its A Trauma Bond, Not Love




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What does it mean to have a “trauma bond” with someone? Trauma bonding refers to the deep emotional attachment one might feel towards their abuser, and it’s more likely to develop in those who have a history of abuse, exploitation, or emotional codependency in their past relationships. Regardless of whether the relationship is romantic, platonic, or familial in nature, trauma bonds can easily be mistaken for feelings of love and commitment towards another person. So we made this video to help you understand the difference of trauma bonding and true love.

If you related to this video and want to learn more about narcissism in relationships, we have a video on the signs you may be dating a narcissist:

Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Script Editor: Vanessa Tao
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice: Amanda Silvera (www.youtube.com/amandasilvera)
Animator: Hannah Roldan
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

References:
Hadeed, L. (2021). Why Women Stay: Understanding the Trauma Bond Between Victim and Abuser Case Studies Were Written. In Gender and Domestic Violence in the Caribbean (pp. 195-207). Palgrave Macmillan, Cham.
Unthank, K. W. (2019). How self-blame empowers and disempowers survivors of interpersonal trauma: An intuitive inquiry. Qualitative Psychology, 6(3), 359.
Renn, P. (2006). Attachment, trauma and violence: understanding destructiveness from an attachment theory perspective. Aggression and Destructiveness: Psychoanalytic Perspectives. London: Routledge.
Ahmad, A., Aziz, M., Anjum, G., & Mir, F. V. (2018). Intimate partner violence and psychological distress: Mediating role of Stockholm syndrome. Pakistan Journal of Psychological Research, 541-557.



Helpful Advice For Successfully Managing Daily Stress

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Being stressed out is something that everyone can identify with. Stress can be an unwelcome companion, but if you think of ways to handle it well, you won’t even notice it’s there. Being prepared helps, and that’s where this article comes in. Here are some smart ways to cope with stress so that it won’t paralyze you.

If you’re feeling stressed, try going for a massage. Getting a nice massage is a great way to have the physical tension worked out of your body. If your body is less physically tense, your mind can be less mentally tense. Massages are a great way to relax and forget about the world.

Is your stress level high? Go for a scenic ride! This will help keep your stress level down. Going for a scenic ride is a great way to unwind and to just enjoy nature. Feel the breeze on your face, enjoy the sunshine and see the clear blue sky. See the world while also keeping your stress levels down!

Next time you are feeling stressed, do something that makes you smile. Just the act of smiling has been scientifically shown to reduce stress levels. The nerves you use when smiling trigger the center in your brain that controls emotions. This essentially begin relaxing you immediately. So next time you feel stressed, step back and grin!

One important tip to remember in stress reduction is to know your objectives. When you have a clear idea of your objective, you know exactly what kind of results you want to obtain. Knowing this will help you to act accordingly, in order to achieve those results and avoid being stressed out by unexpected results.

Persistent headaches are one of the more common symptoms of stress. That’s why we often refer to an undesirable experience or task as a headache! There could, of course, be other underlying problems that are contributing to headaches but stress should certainly be investigated as one of the more logical culprits.

You should never feel as though your stress is a victimless crime. It is sure to be affecting those people nearest and dearest to you. Even if it doesn’t cause your children to be scared of you or your coworkers to avoid you, there is always one other victim – you.



A good tip that can help you keep your stress down, is to plant your own garden. Not only is gardening a fun hobby to have, it will keep your stress levels down, as well. You’ll also be able to show off your garden to anyone you have over.

If you want to get away from your day to day routine, visit a zoo with a cousin or friend. This will give you the opportunity to examine wildlife in their natural habitat, which can be very soothing. Take a trip to the zoo to limit the anxiety in your life.

When you are dealing with a person who has high levels of stress you should know when to avoid them. While the problem is their’s and not your’s, there is also no reason to make things even more difficult. Tell the person that you will resume the conversation at a later point.

If you’re feeling stressed out, try going for a walk. Walking will increase the circulation in your body and get your blood flowing. It also gives you a chance to get some fresh air and to clear your head. A quick ten minute walk can help you feel much more relaxed.

A good tip that can help you keep your stress levels down is to stop worrying about what other people are or are not doing. You only have control over your own actions. Worrying about what other people are doing constantly will make you feel very stressed all the time.

To reduce stress learn some deep breathing exercises. Stressful breathing is shallow and rapid. You can convince your body that you are calm with mindful deep breathing. This is a good way to reduce your stress, and you should use it as part of a daily routine to feel more relaxed.

If you want to limit the stress in your life, indulge in a new language. This will open the world up to you so that you can gain a greater perspective and understanding, helping you to feel good about yourself. Become enamored with a new language to decrease your anxiety.

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A great tip that can help you fight stress is to show gratitude for what you have each and every day. Doing this daily will remind you that you’re blessed and it will keep you in good spirits. You might start appreciating things you’ve never even thought of before.

To get through a complicated task without getting burnt out, break it up into steps. Instead of trying to take on the whole task at once, set simple, achievable goals and take them on by one by one. As the task gets smaller, it will feel much more manageable, and completing minor goals will give you a much needed confidence boost.

It has often been said that laughter is the best medicine. This saying is true, especially when it comes to dealing with stress. Laughing reduces stress hormones in the body, causing an overwhelming sensation that makes you feel good. If you are having a hard time laughing, then at least try to crack a smile.

Fight stress and stressful situations with deep breathing. Inhale and exhale deeply through the nose at least ten times. Deep breathing can slow down an anxious accelerated heart rate, help relieve shortness of breath, calm jittery nerves and clear your head to help you prioritize your thoughts or ideas and that long need-to-do list.

Use these tips to start coping with stress in a better way. When you start handling stress smartly, you will see that unwelcome companion start to retreat. Take it slow and don’t let stress take over your life. Take control and cope well so you can move on in a happier way.



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