7 Signs You’re Not A Bad Person, It’s Your Trauma




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Do you constantly push people away, react sensitively to situations, or resort to bad habits like drinking, smoking, or reckless behaviors? They could be signs of unresolved trauma. Trauma occurs when negative past events leave people with emotional or physical scars. It is important to seek your own path of healing, but do you blame yourself for being a bad person for doing these things? If so, maybe it’s time to stop self-victimizing and focus more on things that you can do to improve yourself as a person. You are not a bad person, and you are not your trauma.

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Bower, G. H., & Sivers, H. (1998). Cognitive impact of traumatic events. Development and psychopathology, 10(4), 625-653.
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Get Rid Of Stress And Start Relaxing

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Having the tools and resources available to be able to fight stress, is something that some people would consider to be priceless information. Some folks try medications and meditation and still can’t get rid of their stress. If you’re at your rope’s end, check out some of these helpful stress-related tips.

To reduce the amount of stress in your life, try to meditate, either with a group or alone in your home. This will give you the ability to focus your energy on something other than your problems and also appease your body from the inside out. When in a trance, you will be free of all your troubles.

Don’t let your emotions get bottled up. Find a way to release them and you won’t feel as stressed. Some people feel better after venting to a friend, others prefer to write to get their feelings out. If you’re sad, cry for a bit. If you’re angry, try hitting a punching bag for a few minutes. If your emotions aren’t being pent up, you won’t be as stressed.

Try running through the park, and make use of what nature has to offer with friends. This will let you sweat out all the toxins that are in your body, which is an important thing to do. Go running or jogging to eliminate stress from your life.

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Having a full-body professional massage can help to reduce stress levels. A byproduct of stress can be wound, tense muscles that do not loosen with conventional methods. This tension will be dissipated by a good massage, and the relaxing effect will also make your mood lighter and less stressful.

One way that you can attempt to manage your stress is to make a list of everything in your life that causes you anxiety or stress. This is important because after making this list, you will be able to tackle each item one by one and work to completely eliminate all the stress in your life.

When it comes to dealing with stress, one great way to manage it is by learning an instrument. This is important because this is a wonderfully creative way to express your emotions and clear your body of stress. Not only are you helping to relax yourself, but you may also provide good music to other people.



When it comes to dealing with stress, you may wish to join an online group that deals with whatever is causing the stress in your life. This is important because there is a lot of help online and a lot of people who can provide many different angles of help that may just work for you.

Exercise to relieve stress. If you find that you are under stress from your job or personal situation, regular exercise can help you feel better. Taking a long walk, going to the gym, dancing or doing yoga are all forms of exercise that can help you feel less stressed.

One easy way to reduce stress is to disconnect yourself from the outside world for a while. Turn off the computer, turn off the phone, turn off the TV and just sit and read a book for a while. The people who need to get in touch with you can wait for you to check your voicemail.

One of the things that you can do to get away from stress is by relaxing or even daydreaming. Allow your mind to drift into a place and time of fantasy. This sort of exercise is fantastic for helping your brain cope with stressful situations.

Develop an exercise regime that will help you minimize stress hormones and neurochemicals. Exercise is an excellent first step in a program designed to relieve stress. Our bodies are programmed by centuries of evolution to flee in the face of stress. We can use this aspect of our evolution to our advantage.

A great tip that can help you keep your stress levels down is to write or read some poetry. Poetry is great because it allows you to express your feelings in a creative way. Not only will you be keeping your stress in check, but you’ll be creating art.

If the weather is nice outside at night, look up at the stars in the sky. This will help you to realize how large the universe is and why the problems you have should be put in perspective. Also, this beautiful scenery can help to improve the way that you feel.

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To help bring your stress levels down try not to obsess over every little thing. If you’re a perfectionist you will not get anything done and you’ll end up being unhappy.

To reduce the amount of stress hormones in your body, find ways to laugh! Laughter has been proven to be one of the best defenses the body has against stress. Try keeping a few funny jokes, pictures, or videos on-hand so that you can look at them when you’re feeling burnt out. You’ll be surprised at how much better a little laughter makes you feel.

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If you find yourself becoming more irritable during the mid-point of your day, try giving up your morning coffee. While caffeine is a great way to perk yourself up in the morning, the withdrawals later in the day can leave you feeling stressed and anxious. If you’re not willing to give up caffeine entirely, try getting your morning wake-up from a cup of green tea.

Be aware of your body and your stress triggers. If you know you will be spending time with someone you don’t like, or that your jaw tightens when you get upset, prepare in advance. This will help you take steps to help you cope. Knowing what sets you off can help you catch yourself before it gets to be too much.

Even if you are at the very end of your rope, you need to hold on just a little while longer. Make sure you have read this article thoroughly and that you understand how to deal with your stress. These tips will certainly help you fight off those stressful feelings, but you have to follow the advice given.



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