7 Signs Someone “Loves” You, But It’s Toxic




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Are you wondering if someone is in love with you? Or if the love toxic? Sometimes, the small things like jealousy could be mistaken as love, but in fact, be a form of toxic control. Are you wondering if your partner is in love with you? or are they just being possessive and toxic?

Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Script Editor: Vanessa Tao
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Chantal Van Rensburg 
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

References:
Sharpsteen, D. J., & Kirkpatrick, L. A. (1997). Romantic jealousy and adult romantic attachment. Journal of personality and social psychology, 72(3), 627.
Hoenigmann-Lion, N. M., & Whitehead, G. I. (2007). The relationship between codependency and borderline and dependent personality traits. Alcoholism Treatment Quarterly, 24(4), 55-77.
Solferino, N., & Tessitore, M. E. (2019). Human networks and toxic relationships.
Schumm, W. R. (2004). Classifying Toxic Relationships. Journal of Psychology and Theology, 32(4), 349.



Discover Helpful Strategies For Coping With Stress

It can be really frustrating to even think about all the stress in your life and how to deal with it, but the fact that you’re here, says you want to do something about it and that’s a good start. You have to stay positive and keep an open mind when you learn new tips and ways to reduce stress. Take some time to read this article and you may discover a few, new tips, on how to manage your stress.

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A great tip that can help you keep your stress levels down is to read a book to your children. Not only will you be keeping your stress in check, you’ll be bonding with your children over a story. Try this next time you’re feeling a little stressed out.

A great tip that can help you fight stress is to be resilient. When things don’t go the way we want them to, we sometimes will consider ourselves to be a victim. This kind of thinking can make you stressed out. Instead, try to overcome difficult situations as best as you can.

Sometimes, with a hectic work schedule, it is important to take a 20 minute nap here and there to recharge your internal batteries. This will make you feel great when you wake up and will eliminate the haggard feeling that you carry around. Find time to take short rest breaks to limit tension.

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One tip to be sure to consider when dealing with your stress, is to make sure that you do not abandon your problems. This is extremely important because many times, things that are causing stress will not go away and postponing them may only make the issues worse with time.

In order to handle large amounts of stress make sure you are adequately rested. Dealing with extreme stress on little or no sleep is very difficult and borderline insane. Those who are poorly rested tend to make bad decisions which can cause more stress, and tend to be more easily irritated.

Walk, bike, run or whatever! Just get out there and do it! A variety of stress hormones and neurochemicals build up in our bodies when we experience chronic stress. Exercise is one of the most effective ways to reduce these chemicals, one of the most effective ways to prevent significant stress-related damage to our health.

Music is good to help you relax. The next time you find yourself to be stressed, put in your favorite music and focus on it. Doing this will provide your mind with a much needed break from your stress.



If you want to limit the stress in your life, indulge in a new language. This will open the world up to you so that you can gain a greater perspective and understanding, helping you to feel good about yourself. Become enamored with a new language to decrease your anxiety.

To help reduce stress, develop better time management skills. If you are constantly in a rush, stress is sure to follow. Eliminate the problem altogether by managing your time well. When you plan things in advance and commit to your schedule, you can accomplish things without the needless pressure that stress creates.

When you find your self in a high-stress situation, take deep breaths to calm yourself down. This helps by giving you a few more moments to assess the situation. Deep breathing also adds more oxygen to your blood stream, which immediately helps to calm your body.

A great tip that can help you relieve a bit of stress is to clench your fists as hard as you can for five seconds. You’ll be surprised at how calm you feel after performing this simple activity. You can also do this anywhere as people probably won’t notice.

Have a more relaxed attitude towards time. Nothing is that important that it can’t wait for a little while. If you don’t feel pressured and rushed, you will be able to accomplish much more. Try not to overload your day, this way if you find yourself with more time, you can choose to do more, or simply relax.

If you find yourself feeling stressed out a lot, then exercising regularly will help. Exercise releases endorphins which can make the mind and your mood calmer. Your aim should be to exercise 3 to 5 times per week for 30 minutes. This will reduce your stress levels and get you feeling more grounded.

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Take an analytical approach when you feel stressed. If you can change the situation, take the necessary action to relieve yourself of stress. If you can’t change the situation, work on how to better handle it, which will also help dissipate stress.

Find a solution to the stress. It can be tempting to start thinking thoughts like “why me?” or “this always happens to me”, but those thoughts only start a cascade of similar thoughts. Instead, be proactive and think your way out of a stressful situation. You’ll feel empowered by your thoughts instead of defeated by them.

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Use aromatherapy daily to reduce stress. Your olfactory senses are very intense. Scents that soothe or bring about a calming feeling, such as chamomile and lavender, are delivered straight to your brain, where your brain waves are signaled to relax. Get a few scented candles to create a relaxing atmosphere.

Avoid alcohol and nicotine as ways of dealing with stress. They may seem to help in a short-term situation, but you run a real risk of developing a serious long-term health problem that will be much worse than the stress you are currently experiencing. Becoming addicted, or even an increase in health concerns will raise your stress levels even higher. Better to avoid alcohol and nicotine all together.

Hopefully, with all of the tips you just learned, you’re already feeling like you can manage the stress in your life. Just remember to try and have a clear head and be positive. These tips won’t work if you don’t stay positive and try them out. Keep an open mind, relax and relieve all of that pent-up stress.



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