Do you ever wonder if others hate you even though you are just being yourself? Even though you try to be more friendly and likeable, but others seem to distance themselves from you. There are common habits that can make others dislike you. As social creatures, we all have deep desires to be liked, how to attract others, and how to make friends. Let’s check out these common habits that can unintentionally drive others away.
Disclaimer: If you can relate to any of these signs, please do not take this feedback as an attack on your character. This article was meant to be a self-improvement guide for those of you who have been feeling a little stuck.
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Turn All Of Your Stresses Into Happiness
Remember the last time you were so stressed that you couldn’t sleep? Stress is one of the biggest sleep stealers there is. Even if you fall asleep, stress can prevent you from entering deep sleep for physical recovery or REM sleep for mental recovery. Experiment with different ways to relieve and release your stress, each day, so that your nightly slumber becomes more peaceful. Try these tips and see how they work for you.
If you’re in a stressful situation, before you doing anything rash, stop and count to ten. This will give you a moment to relax and cool down. It’ll prevent you from doing something you might regret and instead letting your mind calm down enough to make rational choices.
A great tip that can help you fight stress is to simply exercise. Exercising is great because it releases chemicals in your body that will make you feel better. You’ll also be able to put your nervous energy to good use by exercising. Exercising is a fantastic way to keep stress down.
Take more vitamins. Vitamin B has been shown to help reduce stress. Try to take between 100 percent and 300 percent of the daily allowance. Minerals such as chromium, calcium, magnesium, iron, copper, molybdenum, zinc, manganese, and selenium also help you to better deal with stress. Stay away from vitamins labeled as stress relievers as they are usually just vitamin B.
Commit yourself to a hobby you love. Hobbies have the ability to take your mind off of the day’s stressors. Plus, many hobbies are also active in nature, making them doubly powerful in reducing stress. Quite a few people swear by the perspective that stepping back and partaking in a hobby gives them on their stressful tasks at hand. They often come back to the task with refreshed energy and even creative solutions that seemingly appeared out of the blue!
In order to deal with stress, you may wish to consider completely cutting yourself off of whatever is causing your stress temporarily. This is important because sometimes we have problems with completely turning things off and often times this can be the best way. An example would be to turn off your work cell phone and computer for an entire weekend.
Exercise is wonderful to relieve stress. It gets your heart rate pumping and takes your mind off of the stressful events in your life. Consider activities such as walking, tennis, running, swimming or biking. Stress related chemicals are burned off during exercise and it is healthy for you and your heart!
When it comes to dealing with stress, try going to a shooting range. Firing a firearm can be an fantastic way to let stress out in a safe manner. Be sure to follow all laws and regulations at the shooting range and this will not only be a great stress relief mechanism but also a possible new hobby for you.
A great tip that can help you relieve a lot of stress is to stop being so hard on yourself. Don’t beat yourself up over every little mistake that you make. You have to be able to accept that we are all human and that we all make mistakes.
If you are feeling as though your stress levels are becoming unmanageable or even just higher than normal, you should consider talking to a professional. A counselor who deals with stress will be able to give you many great tips, and will talk you through your most stressful moments and times. Sometimes this kind of help is indispensable.
If you’re feeling stressed out, one fantastic cure is laughter. Do something silly with your family. Throw a water balloon. Watch a funny movie or some stand-up comedy. Laughing half an hour every day can have a dramatic improvement on your overall outlook and reduce your stress immensely.
If you’re stressed out, make an extra effort to be friendly to everyone you meet. Lashing out and being rude, will only make other people react in kind, which will make everyone more stressed out than they were. If you put in the effort to smile, people will smile back and you might find your stress melting away.
Try to be as humble as possible when you are around the people that you love and your co-workers. The more arrogant you are, the more you will have to live up to the expectations that you create. This will lead to additional stress, which should be avoided in the first place.
Instead of just thinking about how you can lower stress, write your thoughts out. Develop two lists for yourself: one that covers stresses you may have the ability to control and one that lists stressors out of your hands. Let go of the stresses that you can’t control and concentrate on the list of stressors that you can change.
Getting a great massage is a fantastic way to reduce stress. Massage is very relaxing and will help reduce blood pressure and help you get more sleep. Stress causes muscle tension and headaches. Massage will relax the muscles and will help reduce pain and aches throughout the body, leading to a less stressful mind.
Stop smoking. Smoking is often a reaction to stress. When stressed people actively seek out chemicals and activities that they perceive as providing relief. Tobacco contains nicotine and it is a powerful addictive chemical. Smoking also keeps your hands occupied, something your mind sometimes pushes you to do when you are stressed.
Make sure that you practice proper money management so that you do not find yourself in a hole when it comes time to pay your bills. Do not spend money on unnecessary items, which will leave you cutting it very close at the end of the month. Proper money management is important to reduce tension and pressures.
Now you should have a few new ideas to add to your “stress management” tool kit. Everyone needs to know different techniques to manage stress, because stress is tricky because the same techniques don’t always work all of the time. Try the above tips and see if they can become part of your stress-fighting arsenal, to help you to better manage daily stress levels.