What is gaslighting? According to psychologists, gaslighting is a form of emotional or tactical manipulation where the narcissist or manipulator’s goal is to get you to think that you are in the wrong. In reality, you may have just been gaslighted. Here is a list of gaslighting phrases that abusers may commonly use: ”you are so sensitive,” ”I was just joking,” ”Relax” or ”you are imagining things.” The list of gaslighting phrases examples go on. You may have also heard of the Johnny Depp vs Amber’s case and relate back to some of these examples as you watch this video.
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Manage Your Dailey Stress
Stress can come in many forms, some of which are quite stealthy and sneak up on you before your even realize. It may be too late by then to take action to defend yourself against stress. What you need now is to focus on relieving the stress that has already hit. Try these tips to see if you can let go of some stress today and remember what peace feels like.
Make sure you’re not taking too much on. If you’re feeling stressed, particularly at work, it could be because you’re trying to take on too much work at once. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. If you’re not able to handle your work load, let your boss know. Often, your boss will be more than happy to help you out or help you to find someone who can.
Breathing works wonders for alleviating stress. Take a deep breath, this helps to oxygenate your blood and can help you to relax instantly. If you breath shallow, it causes your heart to beat faster and your muscles start to get tense. Instead, breathe deeply, inhale through your nose, hold a few seconds and then exhale through your nose.
Stressful situations can be avoided if you manage repairs when they’re needed. If you have three things that need to be repaired, that is triple the effort you will have to do. It is better to stay on top of things.
Before you do or say anything you might regret, stop and count to 10. Take a moment away from the thing or person causing you stress and get yourself together. Take a few deep breaths, recite an affirmation, or stretch. Do whatever it takes to re-center yourself, and get rid of the stress.
To help cut down on your stresses, just say no! If you try to do everything that is asked of you, it will quickly cause stress in your life. Set limits and be clear, you cannot please everyone all the time, so stop trying or your stress will continue.
Take more vitamins. Vitamin B has been shown to help reduce stress. Try to take between 100 percent and 300 percent of the daily allowance. Minerals such as chromium, calcium, magnesium, iron, copper, molybdenum, zinc, manganese, and selenium also help you to better deal with stress. Stay away from vitamins labeled as stress relievers as they are usually just vitamin B.
An important thing to keep in mind that can help you fight stress is to realize that you can’t control everything. Trying to be in control of everything is a great way to keep yourself stressed out at all times. You must learn that there’s only so much you can control in life.
Take some time out of your life to sit down and read about stress. Many times when you understand exactly how something works it allows you to be able to handle it much better. When you understand the psychology of stress, you should be better equipped to avoid it when it comes around.
Exercising is a great way to beat stress. Go for a walk or a run, depending on your fitness level, during times of the day you tend to feel the most stressed. It can also help to start your day off with physical activity as this increases the mood boosters in your brain.
Goal setting is an integral component to dealing with the stress and pressure that you will face. Try to set reasonable goals that are not too high or too low, so that you are not only capable of achieving them, but feel satisfaction after you do. Proper goal setting is important to limit anxiety.
Next time you feel stressed and want to give up, do the opposite. Fighting through stress by being proactive, is an important step to controlling the situation. When you are passive about the the situation, you can easily develop a growing level of helplessness, which will only add more stress to your plate. Get in front of the situation.
To help yourself relax during a long day at work, be sure to leave the office for lunch. Even if you just step outside to eat your bagged lunch in the park, getting away from your office can do wonders to decrease your stress. A 15 to 20 minute break from your environment makes a long day a whole lot easier to cope with.
When you find your self in a high-stress situation, take deep breaths to calm yourself down. This helps by giving you a few more moments to assess the situation. Deep breathing also adds more oxygen to your blood stream, which immediately helps to calm your body.
A good tip that can help you reduce your stress is to spend some time away from the internet now and then. It can get very tempting to get on the internet but it can also be very stressful because you’re always making yourself accessible to others. Take some time off to spend by yourself.
Stop procrastinating. If you wait until the very last minute to take care of the things in your life that you must get done, you are going to stress out much more about doing them. You may not want to do the things that you have to do but the longer that you wait to do them, the more stressed you are going to be when you do them.
When you are feeling stressed out, it is important that you take a deep breath every few minutes. According to medical professionals, when you take a deep breath, you are breathing from your diaphragm, which oxygenates your blood. In turn, this helps to make you relax quicker and more easily.
Some say that all of us are born with a peaceful personality inside. However, stress and other feelings, act like layers upon our calm souls. When you learn stress relief techniques, you are acquiring tools that allow you to let go of these stress layers so they do not accumulate over time and bury your true inner nature.